How to Guarantee
that the
Funeral You Want is the One You Get
You Decide and Present Your Wishes
If it is your desire to have a simple wooden casket costing under $1000.00, then you may have that. Fine metals and gaskets only slow the process of decomposition. You may always have a favorite blanket of the deceased, placed around her/him in the casket or draped over it for the services. Think "outside the box!"
You may request to dress your loved one. The funeral directors can always move the dressing table to a private area where you can take all the time you need for this activity. We suggest that at least two of you work together especially if the deceased is a large person.
If you are the parent of a deceased infant, remember that you may request the use of an alternative to a casket for the visitation. We offer a cradle and then invite the parents and casket bearers to place the infant in the casket just prior to the service.
Fetal remains may be viewed. One must remember that often these remains are under developed and often do not look like one might expect. One the other hand, by carefull wrapping them in fleece or other soft material, and creating the look of a cradle, it is possible to have a brief viewing. Once again, this needs to be your decision.
You also may transport the casketed remains of your loved one to the place of
burial. Minnesota statutes require that the body be embalmed and enclosed in a container. The vehicle may be a van or a truck with a topper. This has been especially important for our Native American families who may be intering the body on a reservation hours from the Twin Cities or in another state. The funeral director will provide necessary legal paperwork for you to carry in the vehicle.
Our best advice is to ask for what you want.
If the directors are hesitant, have them explain their concerns.
If these are not legal concerns,
and
if you are competent to make decisions
you should be allowed to follow through with your desires.
